The Feel Good Soup

The philosophical ramblings of a psychology enthusiast who endeavours to live a passionate, meaningful life.

On being the change

A friend of mine, who works in the mental health field (shout out to all you mental health practitioners out there), posted a question on Facebook the other day, asking people how they interpret Mahatma Gandhi’s famous quote “Be the change you want to see in the world.”, and of course, this got me thinking.

When I think of that quote, my initial thoughts immediately go to the amazing song/video “Be the change” by MC Yogi (one that always makes my daughter stop and pay attention, then ask a whole bunch of difficult questions; which I love).

But then, when I thought about my friend’s question, about how I work on being the change I want to see in the world, I had to really pause to think about it.  (more…)

Book Review: The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau

As I mentioned in my first post of the year, I plan on reading a whole lot more in 2017. To create accountability, I’ve committed to writing and posting one book review per month for the whole year. Here is the first one. Let me know what you think! 

the $100 startup by Chris GuillebeauTitle: The $100 Startup: Reinvent the Way You Make a Living, Do What You Love, and Create a New Future

Author: Chris Guillebeau | author website
Hardcover, 268 pages
Published May 8th 2012 by Crown Business
Genre: Business / Small business / Entrepreneurship
Goodreads rating: 3.84 stars / 5
Mel’s rating: 4 stars / 5

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What if you only had today?

There’s nothing like a great tragedy, to wake you up and make you realize that you need to make changes or renew a past commitment that you’ve been leaving unattended for a little while.

There was a death in my family. Well, not someone related to me, but someone I love lost their significant other quite unexpectedly. In helping and supporting her, I couldn’t help but to think about just how short life could be.  (more…)

Year in Review: Looking Back, Looking Forward

I was debating whether or not to do this post, but I’ve come to realize that it’s only cliché to evaluate the past year and plan for the upcoming year, if you don’t take it seriously. I used to think this whole personal development stuff was cliché bull crap. But in 2016, I half-assedly took it seriously, and as I looked back during the last couple of weeks, I realized I actually had an amazing year!

Imagine what kind of year 2017 will be if/when I actually whole-heartedly take it seriously!

So what happened that was so amazing?, you ask. Let me take you on my journey. (more…)

Words of wisdom from Disney, on the road to following your passion

I watched the remake of Cinderella recently, and I was surprised at how strongly I related to the message it conveyed. In this rendition, two words resonated throughout the entire story:

Have COURAGE, and be KIND.

Two words never held so much meaning for me, as they do now.

Have Courage

In a world where following your passion is something only adolescents and millennials are supposed to do, where it becomes dangerous to do once you’ve finally jumped into “adulting”, following your passion takes courage. (more…)

Four important ingredients in creating the life you want

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I was out for a walk the other day, during my lunch break, and I’d been craving shawarma from my favourite little spot near by. Interestingly enough, I had just watched an extremely powerful talk by Simon Sinek about Millennials (it’s not what you think). Anyway, I finally arrived at this tiny little shawarma takeout place, which is family owned and where the men who work there always serve you with bright beautiful smiles. The pleasant, friendly service is half the reason why I like that place so much; the other half is of course the delicious food on which I always put way too much garlic sauce for someone who has to work in close proximity with colleagues all afternoon.

That day, I noticed that the youngest in the family wasn’t feeling it. I’d spoken to him before and he had shared his passion of working in the fitness industry and his dream of opening his own gym. But he hadn’t been successful and so had taken this job. His smile was usually the brightest… but today, when I asked him how he was (as people do when they greet each other), he smiled kindly, allowed himself to be authentic with me for a few seconds, and admitted that he was just “alright – same old, same old”. I offered something along the lines of “Well it’s better than a lot of other people, right?”. But I knew, as I walked away, that I had missed an opportunity.  (more…)

How to deal with the guilt of moving upwards and seeing those you love stay behind

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I received a message from a friend the other day. The question that this person asked me was one that I asked myself for a long time. And I hadn’t realized that I had the answer until I wrote him back. I want to share this conversation with you today, with my friend’s permission and anonymity, in the hopes that it might help you too.

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Dear Mel,

I grew up surrounded by poverty and addiction. So when I dug myself out of that hole and attained middle class-ness, I found that I couldn’t bring my whole family with me. I can’t even help them with money because it only feeds their addictions.  So I watch as they slowly kill themselves through awful decisions – medical, or drugs or alcohol, or abusive relationships – and I can’t help because they won’t accept what I can offer. No amount of money, even if I had it, would solve the problems of a lifetime of habitual behaviour.  When this happens, Mel, how do you deal with the guilt? (more…)

3 ways to help you navigate through negative emotions – OR – Happiness isn’t all about puppies, rainbows and unicorns. There’s a place for negative emotions too

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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about the Ego versus our True Selves. I talked about how Jen Sincero calls the Ego the Big Snooze and how it’s that voice in our head that cautions us against every possible thing that might be the least bit risky.

Don’t play there, you might skin your knee!

Don’t talk to those people they might be mean to you, or maybe they’ll con you into giving them all your money.

Don’t apply for that job, you might bomb the interview and make a fool of yourself.

Don’t say yes to that friend who just invited you to take a trip with them, you might end up getting kidnaped or robbed!

Really, Big Snooze!?  (more…)

My battle with meditation

meditation-struggle

When people ask me about meditation, I tell them that I learned meditation when I was 18 years old; literally half my life ago. But I choose those words very carefully so that I don’t lie and say that I’ve been meditating since I was 18 years old. See the subtle difference there?

Meditation has been a part of my life long enough that I know its benefits. I’ve experienced the amazing, high-flying, practically miraculous feeling of consistent meditation practice. I KNOW how awesome it is.

But the trick – what always ends up killing me – is consistency.  (more…)

Leaders aren’t heartless robots. They’re people too

 

henry-ford-leadership-quotes

I was watching old Simon Sinek videos – the interview he did on Good Life Project, and the discussion he had with Scott at Live Your Legend. For those who aren’t familiar with Simon’s work, he wrote a very famous book called Start with Why (which I haven’t read yet, but I’m dying to read; it’s just that I have too many books on my “must read” list and haven’t had enough time to absorb it all yet), and has a great TED talk that I highly suggest you check out. Basically, his main schtick is Leadership. (more…)