The Feel Good Soup

The philosophical ramblings of a psychology enthusiast who endeavours to live a passionate, meaningful life.


On being the change

A friend of mine, who works in the mental health field (shout out to all you mental health practitioners out there), posted a question on Facebook the other day, asking people how they interpret Mahatma Gandhi’s famous quote “Be the change you want to see in the world.”, and of course, this got me thinking.

When I think of that quote, my initial thoughts immediately go to the amazing song/video “Be the change” by MC Yogi (one that always makes my daughter stop and pay attention, then ask a whole bunch of difficult questions; which I love).

But then, when I thought about my friend’s question, about how I work on being the change I want to see in the world, I had to really pause to think about it.  (more…)

What if you only had today?

There’s nothing like a great tragedy, to wake you up and make you realize that you need to make changes or renew a past commitment that you’ve been leaving unattended for a little while.

There was a death in my family. Well, not someone related to me, but someone I love lost their significant other quite unexpectedly. In helping and supporting her, I couldn’t help but to think about just how short life could be.  (more…)

Year in Review: Looking Back, Looking Forward

I was debating whether or not to do this post, but I’ve come to realize that it’s only cliché to evaluate the past year and plan for the upcoming year, if you don’t take it seriously. I used to think this whole personal development stuff was cliché bull crap. But in 2016, I half-assedly took it seriously, and as I looked back during the last couple of weeks, I realized I actually had an amazing year!

Imagine what kind of year 2017 will be if/when I actually whole-heartedly take it seriously!

So what happened that was so amazing?, you ask. Let me take you on my journey. (more…)

Words of wisdom from Disney, on the road to following your passion

I watched the remake of Cinderella recently, and I was surprised at how strongly I related to the message it conveyed. In this rendition, two words resonated throughout the entire story:

Have COURAGE, and be KIND.

Two words never held so much meaning for me, as they do now.

Have Courage

In a world where following your passion is something only adolescents and millennials are supposed to do, where it becomes dangerous to do once you’ve finally jumped into “adulting”, following your passion takes courage. (more…)

How to deal with the guilt of moving upwards and seeing those you love stay behind

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I received a message from a friend the other day. The question that this person asked me was one that I asked myself for a long time. And I hadn’t realized that I had the answer until I wrote him back. I want to share this conversation with you today, with my friend’s permission and anonymity, in the hopes that it might help you too.

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Dear Mel,

I grew up surrounded by poverty and addiction. So when I dug myself out of that hole and attained middle class-ness, I found that I couldn’t bring my whole family with me. I can’t even help them with money because it only feeds their addictions.  So I watch as they slowly kill themselves through awful decisions – medical, or drugs or alcohol, or abusive relationships – and I can’t help because they won’t accept what I can offer. No amount of money, even if I had it, would solve the problems of a lifetime of habitual behaviour.  When this happens, Mel, how do you deal with the guilt? (more…)

Leaders aren’t heartless robots. They’re people too

 

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I was watching old Simon Sinek videos – the interview he did on Good Life Project, and the discussion he had with Scott at Live Your Legend. For those who aren’t familiar with Simon’s work, he wrote a very famous book called Start with Why (which I haven’t read yet, but I’m dying to read; it’s just that I have too many books on my “must read” list and haven’t had enough time to absorb it all yet), and has a great TED talk that I highly suggest you check out. Basically, his main schtick is Leadership. (more…)

August 26, 2016

When you choose happiness, your choice overflows to affect everyone around you

Birthday girl

Today is my birthday. The thing about it is, ever since I became a mom (and moms everywhere surely will agree with me on this), my own birthday isn’t as important as it used to be. This is especially true for me since my daughter’s birthday is 9 days prior to my own. When she was a baby, we celebrated both birthdays at the same time, but I was conscious of the fact that it was really her birthday that mattered, and mine was just tacked on out of convenience; at least that’s how it felt to me. And I was ok with that. (more…)

Hello Inspiration. Hello Creativity.

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I’ve missed you. I didn’t know, I hadn’t realized, it hadn’t dawned on me that I could see you as something that was separate from me. But I like interacting with you like this.

I can feel that you’ve just been hanging out with me this whole time, waiting for me to recognize you, to realize that “oh! THAT’s Inspiration! Oh, THAT’s creativity!” as if you were just someone I walked by every day, not realizing you’re the neighbour, until just now.  (more…)

July 29, 2016

The trick to getting unstuck

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You know, I’ve had an article on my computer for over a month. I had a great topic, and I did research, and I was going to bring in all these really great pieces and it was going to all fit together perfectly. And on top of that, I told myself I would treat myself like a serious writer. I was going to start giving myself deadlines and make myself keep them. Because serious writers have deadlines, and apparently, that makes them perform better.

Well, here’s what happened (more…)

What makes perpetually happy people so special?

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Do you know someone who always seems to be in a good mood? Or worse, even when they go through something difficult, they’re unnaturally optimistic? Ever wonder what makes them so special? What makes them so different than the rest of the population?

I was watching a Ted Talk by Martin Seligman, the so-called father of positive psychology. And he said something that I found interesting. He said (more…)